GREENVILLE, S.C. (AP) – Greenville's surgeon said she has a new understanding of what breast cancer patients endure after she has a diagnosed illness.
"You really do not know what the patient is going through when they have a diagnosed cancer," said Dr. Sharon Ben-Or.
"It's like death," she added. "You go through all the different stages of sadness."
As reported for the month of breast cancer awareness with pink ribbons and fundraising exercises, Ben-Or said that it is important to remember those who suffer from emotional roller coasters and often debilitating methods of treatment associated with the diagnosis.
"We have this picture of what breast cancer is needed – the pink power and the fight as a girl," she said.
"But after all, the patients are scared," she added. "We strive to treat this image, what force is intended, and we do not share the fear."
According to the American Cancer Society, breast cancer is the second most common malignant tumor in women.
It is estimated that 266,120 women will be diagnosed this year, according to the public, and 41,000 will die.
Ben-Ors, 42, has been a chest surgeon in Greenville's health system for the past four years.
Last year, one of the speakers said that the recommendations encourage women to start mammogram at the age of 40.
She realized that she should better find out their list of things to do and talked to the radiologist's friend about setting it up.
On the test the next morning, her friend called to say that calcination was found. This led to biopsy and some alarming hours when waiting for results.
"Finally, she called me and said," You have breast cancer, "Ben-Or recalled." I just felt that everything was going to collapse. I realized that everything I planned was just dead. "
After giving her a stunned husband, she was able to reach her just as frustrating father, who left Japan.
"The hardest thing I had to do was tell my dad that I had cancer," she said. "I knew that it would spoil his heart."
Next came a doctor's visit and MRI.
Although she had Grade 1 cancer, it was a way of having a high recurrence rate. So while she could be exposed to radiation followed by mammography and MRI twice a year, she chose a bilateral mastectomy and reconstruction.
"I was afraid it was coming back," she said.
The next time chemotherapy and associated nausea, pain, exhaustion and hair loss were observed.
Ben-Or found comfort in talking to other cancer patients, including a woman in a grocery store who was also exposed to a chemist who noticed her shoulder and asked about her treatment.
"It's hard to deal with nausea and pain, but many people complain about guilty ones … because we do not want to be a burden for everyone," she said. "Only when I talked with colleagues, I understood that it was fine. It was nice if there was someone who really got it."
As long as the chemist ended in December, she felt the effect until March. Now she is monitored every four months by her oncologist and will use drugs for years to prevent recurrence.
During the diagnosis, Ben-Or treated the pregnancy. But he has detained these plans.
"It seems that this sheer tournament is called cancer, seven months in my life," she said. "All this was so emotionally exhausted to me, before I crossed this bridge, I need time to restore and refuel.
"I'm still trying to rebuild my life."
Now returning to work, she said that her experience always changed as a doctor.
"It was very difficult to be patient and go through it. It changed my approach," she said.
"I learned that as a patient I did not want my doctors or my family or friends to be optimists who said," You can beat it, "she added." I just wanted them to tell them, "It sucked in and I I'm here for you. ""
While people said she was brave and strong during treatment, Ben-Or thought she was something.
"Every day there are so many people who have cancer with cancer. I'm only one of them," she said. "And I felt like a fake when people told me they were admiring me. I was so scared."
So she tells patients that fear, anger and sadness are a normal response to a terrible situation.
"It's very important to remind people with breast cancer or any cancer that inside is a fear person," she said. "And it's good to have these feelings. Before you can move on, you need to recognize the unpleasant sensations."
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